Why a Success Coach?

Why a Success Coach?

A coach is someone who helps clients discover his dreams and goals, his values, his priorities and his boundaries. A coach rarely offers advice on what to do; her role is to lead the client to identify the problem, the options and to choose a solution. A coach asks questions ' especially the tough ones. What are you afraid of? Who is waiting for you? What is it that you don't want to tell me?

A coach is on the journey with the client sharing victories, experiencing challenges, resourcing solutions together.As the teacher, or the coach, you also have to be a student. You are on a continuous learning path. In fact, it is in the process of coaching that you learn the most.

People who want to be schoolteachers need to learn how to teach. If you're going to be a success coach, doing your best won't be enough. You need to learn how to coach. You need some skills.If you start to coach without creating a foundation, you're still likely to have success in the beginning. That success comes from your excitement, your energy, and your ability to transfer that excitement to others. Their lives will improve simply because they're paying attention. Yet what happens when six months or a year passes by and all of a sudden the results drop off, and you don't know why. It will be because you don't have a system.

You won't be an expert or an authority in every area you discuss. As a success coach, what you will do is help others find their own answers, silently companioning them. It's not my job to tell my client what to do with his life, but it is my job to help him find out for himself what to do to take his life to the next level.Do you want to be a good student? Then be a good coach.Whether you think you want to be a coach or not, you should be. Enter into the business of coaching ' it will benefit your life; it will be the catalyst for you to step into greatness. When you learn to coach others, you become the best student of all.

As you coach from within yourself, outside of yourself, you often come up with solutions for your own issues while helping others discover theirs.

As you go become a coach, you'll learn to be flexible, and you'll coach in areas that you may know nothing about. And that's perfect because you don't need to know content, you just need to know people.

You're an expert on people, because you are one! You are on the outside looking in. You have a perspective that your client doesn't have.A coach is the bridge between information and action. There is a difference between knowing and doing.

Some people have the solutions to their problems, but lack the impetus to get going. Some have the solutions and aren't aware.

And some need guidance in discovering the answers they seek. But answers alone are not enough. Solutions without action result in the same outcome as not having the solution at all.

You, as the coach, believe more in your client than she/he believes in herself.

You see her as perfect.

You see the obstacles behind which lie her successes and you lead her around, over and through those obstacles.

You guide your client through the discovery process.

You create a system of accountability to help the client take action on his discoveries.

Coaching is about being real. Dealing with what is, rather than what isn't. Developing a bond of trust. It is about opening up to each other.Coaching is also about knowing yourself.

So much of coaching is based on instinct, and questions, and internal examination. If you're not on a journey of self-examination, you're not in tune with yourself, and you're not congruent with what you're asking of your clients.

You need to get real with yourself - know your strengths, and your challenges.

Know your personality - how are you likely to act, to react, to choose to do work. Know your striving instincts to get work done. Know your skill base.

Know your limitations, and where to get resources.When clients are looking for a coach in their lives, a life coach, a success coach, they're putting their dreams in your hands. They trust you with their lives, their hopes. It's not something they choose lightly ' there is a lot at stake in giving you that trust. It's not what they stand to lose that scares them. It's what they stand to gain by choosing the right person to guide them.

You will create miracles. Miracles happen all the time, although we don't always identify them in that way. You've heard stories about life-changing experiences. The help you give can change your client's life. A miracle is a shift in perception.

All you have to do is shift someone's perception of the way she sees her life or the way she approaches certain things, and a miracle happens. One minute she's literally going off the road; the next, you have picked her up, set her going in a new direction and her life is changed forever. And you will do it again and again.
7 Tips To Become A Successful Coach
I still remember my first experience as a soccer coach to a team comprising of seven-year olds. I shudder to think how near I came to losing my sanity and my patience when I had to witness them kicking the ball around like a huge bread-crumb infested with ants. It did feel strange at first to have a group of kids stare at you like an outsider in their domain. But that is what every coach has to overcome. Isn't it?

Coaching is encouraging others to perform well. It is also to successfully manage a mixed lot of top performers, standard performers, not-so-good performers and the laggards, each player bearing a "Handle with Care" label. Their egos are so fragile.

Even the underachievers expect to be turned into a roaring success. The whole situation seems like an irony of the saying 'there is no I in team'.Nevertheless, it does take a grinding determination to become a coach. There are seven steps that a coach can take any day.

They are:

1. There are so many options these days as far as team-building tools are concerned. Corporate Team Building has various packages like vacation packages, ice-breakers, office games kept on-going , rope courses, etc. in addition to videos, seminars and books which go to make a team worth belonging to. Some ideas on information on them will follow later.

2. Grasp the main idea behind motivating. You can definitely use it today. Avoid mind-confusing play of words. Decide on three small ways to inspire the team to look forward to the next morning, before you go to bed.

3. Whatever your area of specialization, one can't beat experience when it comes to getting people to put out their best energetic efforts and it is all the more important when you are mixing with your whole team.

4. Remember that a performance can be questioned, but never the ability, intelligence or knowledge. Awareness of what a player goes through to play right will keep you away from the common mistakes of past coaches. I have seen such mistakes of other past coaches aggravate the situation and even build up hostility. You have to set an example on how best to do the job. When you know how badly is the experience at the wrong end, and then perhaps you will be sympathetic about setting out improvement courses.

5. Every coach has to face the worst experience when he has to send the player, even the top performer, to the bench. When you have to deal with such a person, encourage him to see his own follies. An egoistic performer loses his focus even with very small mistakes. It is then that you can correct him or her firmly, but with understanding.

6. Always keep your duties in front of you. You are there to improve them for their benefit. Make them realize this rather than empathizing with them.

7. Last but not the least, trust yourself and the members of your team. Your primary goals are performance and decisions and many are keeping a close watch to see whether they could do a more efficient job. So before sending anyone to the bench, talk to her or him and find out what is bothering them. If it’s something too personal, the best you can do is to offer encouragement to them.

A friendly enthusiastic pat on the back would definitely help.It is very important to be a successful company and being a thorough corporate person myself, I know that we all can partake of that success. You must remember that coaches are employed as guides to help you to put your best foot forward and never to complicate your work. If you use their guidance well, you can prove yourself a credit to them, as well as to yourself.
Techniques Used for Personal Development
As most of the people believe that personal development is a positive way to improve in life, there are also people who find it difficult in accomplishing the techniques used for it. These are the people who are in need of a personal development plan.

The personal-development plan is chalked out in a way that will help you figure out the areas that need improvement. Through this plan, you can also sketch out long term and short term goals that are realistic and will also identify the means to realize the changes that you would take in life.

Finally, it will help you document the necessary steps that would be needed to follow the course of developing skills.Personality development plan starts with identifying the areas that should be improved upon.

You can start off with a list of areas in your life that you find difficult. Then carefully arrange the areas so that you find the most needed area of improvement to have a quick start. With this plan, you can concentrate on the areas that are written down and need to be changed and rather it would become a manageable way to track out changes and find out budding results.

NLP-A personality development technique As there are a number of personality development techniques, NLP is also amongst them. NLP means Neuro-Linguistic Programming. It was a product of 1970s that was the idea of cognitive patterns in creating a form of reality, which by virtue of its ability was to be manipulated. The main goal was to support perceptions usually for the individual self with preferred outcomes like behavioral changes.

Various supporters of NLP have put forward a number of theories and techniques that sought to put desiring shift in personal self image and to improve personal-development. Just like other ideas of personal development NLP was also taken by noted authorities who found new approaches to personal development.

Reiki-Personal development

Reiki is a technique that is used for getting solutions for problems and personal-development. This technique can be used if you need to try out some new ways to develop you personality and find it difficulty in solving problems. The main advantage of Reiki is that you work the technique on you and your family member and someone from a distance. This is also possible in the case of

LTA personality-development technique.

In the method of Reiki you work with energies from the universe while in the case of LTA personal-development technique the therapists work with their energies. For reiki and other related techniques the main difference is the fact that lies in thousands of issues that could not be managed or found a solution for but was treated with LTA and reiki method.

Psychology-Personal Development The effect in developing psychology is that people show more understanding to each other. Not like the early days where people did not show any compassion with the abnormal and weak persons but today psychology has an identity for all kinds of personality learning difficulties or disorders.

JUst chill...........agarbandhu

What Do You REALLY Want?

What Do You REALLY Want?

The statement, “You can do anything you put your mind to,” leads us to believe that all you must do is imagine what you’d like to accomplish, set your mind to the task, and wait for success.
To a certain degree this is true. Focused intention combined with action is a powerful force. But the statement is misleading because it fails to mention the difficulty and necessity of focusing your mind on a specific goal.
Most of us don’t know what we want. We think we do, but we really don’t. We only know what we don’t want. We don’t want a boring job. We don’t want to be poor. We don’t want to disappoint our loved ones.

Knowing specifically what you want is much different than knowing what you don’t want. When you only know what you don’t want, your intentions aren’t focused.

Consider this example.
Arjun punj doesn’t want to be poor. He’s sick of earning less than his friends, and he’s determined to raise his status. To accomplish this goal, Arjun punj could take many different paths. He could train for a high paying profession, such as doctor or lawyer. He could start his own company, go into real estate, or do many other things that would lead to acquiring wealth.
But Arjun punj isn’t sure what he wants to do. He doesn’t know which path best fits his skills and personality, so he doesn’t resolve to follow any particular path.
Hoping to answer this question, he investigates a dozen possibilities, but as soon as he runs into adversity he decides that path isn’t for him and moves on to a new solution.
Arjun punj ’s actions aren’t focused. Although he works very hard, his efforts don’t build on each other. Rather than building one giant impenetrable sand castle, Arjun punj has built twenty smalls ones that are easily toppled. He ends up confused and discouraged. Ultimately Arjun punj ’s lack of focus leads to failure.
Now, what if Arjun punj had chosen a specific path? Suppose he decided on the law profession. His actions would have been clearly defined:
Get a high score on the LSAT
Attain letters of recommendation
Get accepted to a good law school
Decide on a field of law
Earn a law degree
Find a high paying job with a good law firm
A set of specific goals is much easier to achieve than a vague end goal like becoming wealthy. Being focused on a path gives a logical set of actions to follow. Each accomplishment is one step closer to the final goal.
I think we can all agree that committing to a clearly defined path, regardless of which one, gives Pete the best chance of becoming wealthy.
But how can he choose a path if he doesn’t know what he wants? Maybe money isn’t his only goal. Maybe he wants to do something he loves at the same time. Maybe he can’t afford to go back to school. Reality is complicated, and Pete doesn’t want to commit too soon.
And that’s why he fails.
But I don’t think that’s necessarily a bad thing. Most people don’t fit neatly into a predefined path. Forcing yourself into one may lead to success, but it probably won’t make you happy.
This is the point. If you want to be conventionally successful, to attain wealth and status, you need to choose a specific path (preferably something mainstream) and follow it to the letter.
On the other hand, if you aren’t particularly concerned with wealth or success, you can take your time searching for that perfect niche.
Just don’t wait too long to decide. Each moment you deliberate, your already committed competitors sprint further ahead.
But, then again, maybe life isn’t a race, and maybe the most interesting people follow a path all their own.

Just chill.............agarbandhu

How to Find Your Passion for Anything

How to Find Your Passion for Anything

There’s a big myth in our culture: that passion can only be spontaneous. You either love your job or you don’t. You either enjoy exercising or hate it. You are interested in reading books or you find them boring. That passion can’t be forced or created.
I disagree. Passion can be created. Even for things you don’t currently enjoy.
By tweaking the activities and pursuits you engage in, you can find a passion for anything. All it takes is a bit of patience and an open mind.
The benefit is that you end up loving the things you have to do anyways. Exercising, learning, studying, working and almost any pursuit can be made into a passion. And if you know how to do it, existing passions can be turned from mildly interesting to exciting. The skill of finding your passion is like turning up the dial for the amount of color you experience in life.Here are some ways to find your passion:
1. Get Curious - Curiosity is the basis of passion. Shake off your current understandings and begin from the view that you are almost completely ignorant on the subject. Then look for novelty to boost your interest.
2. Make it a Game - Give yourself rules, objectives and strategic constraints. The more creative thinking required the better.
3. Set a Goal - Create a specific goal along with a deadline. This can infuse mundane activities with a sense of direction and purpose. Writing a report goes from being just another task, to a creative challenge that pushes you.
4. Express Yourself - Find hidden opportunities for self-expression. This could mean inventing a style for folding clothes. Changing the format you write code in or altering the style of your presentation. View each activity as an act of expression and originality.
5. Focus - Cut distractions and eliminate noise. The more you focus on an activity the better you can notice interesting qualities about it. The only truly boring activity is the one you can’t pay attention to.
6. Jigsaw Piecing - A jigsaw puzzle has hundreds of uniquely shaped pieces of a picture. View your activities as pieces of a larger image. This can turn dull activities into individual snippets of a more fascinating whole.
7. Dial Down Cravings - Have you ever noticed how the hungrier you are, the less able you are to enjoy the taste of food? This works the same way with passion. The more you crave a goal (instead of the process containing the goal) the less likely you are to develop a passion for it. Goal-setting is good. Goal-obsession is not.
8. Connect with Talents - How can you apply your existing talents to an activity? Find ways to use skills you already have in a new endeavor. An artistic person could draw pictures to help himself study. An athletic person might be able to use her strength and endurance as a speaker.
9. Overcome the Frustration Barrier - If an activity is too difficult for you to become enthusiastic about it, slow down. Worry less about results and more about experimenting until you build up skill. Whenever I try a new hobby, I strive to just try things out before building skills. This keeps me from getting frustrated and ensures the process is fun.
10. Leech Enthusiasm - Energy is contagious. If you spend time with someone who exudes passion about a subject, some of it will rub off on you. Seek out people who have the energy you want and get them to describe their motivation. Often it will point you to key information you had no idea could be so interesting.
11. Remove the Chains - Feeling forced into an activity is a sure way to kill any passion. Instead of flowing with the task, you rebel against it, making you miserable. Be aware of the consequences for not acting, but remove the feeling that you don’t have a choice. You always have a choice.
12. Tune the Challenge - For boring tasks, make them more difficult. For frustrating tasks, make them easier. This can be done by varying the speed or constraints you need to complete a task. Boring chores can be made more interesting by setting a time-limit. Frustrating assignments can be made easier by allowing yourself an awful first-draft instead of perfection.
13. Get instruction - Finding a teacher can give you the basic level of understanding necessary to enjoy an activity. Sometimes passion can be drained just by not knowing the basics.
14. Humble confidence - Confidence is necessary for passion, but arrogance can destroy it. Build a humble confidence where you believe in your abilities to handle the unknown, but you also have a great respect for it.
15. Focus Immediately - Look at the next immediate step. Don’t concern yourself over what needs to be done next month or next year if it overwhelms you. Focus on each step of the marathon, not how many miles you have left.
16. Play - If the process confuses or bothers you, just play with it. Don’t have a purpose until you can define one.
17. Eliminate - This one might not apply, but it is always good to use. If you really can’t enjoy something, find a way to eliminate it from your life. Don’t waste your time doing things you don’t enjoy. Either cultivate a passion or get rid of it.

Just chill..............agarbandhu

Qualities of a good teacher

Qualities of a good teacher

Teachers are role models for many students. I personally feel that these are the qualities of a good teacher.

1. The teachers should constantly motivate their students. Never say anything negative about any one. Always the brighter side of any student should be highlighted more to bring in more success from them.

2. The teachers should guide the students to learn lessons from their student's life experiences.

3. The teachers should be able to impart the fact that knowledge gives every other things in life.

4. The teachers should be able to co-relate the student's feelings and emotions with their behavior. The teacher should be a friend to them when the students are in sorrow or when they are rejoicing.

5. The teachers should be able to accomplish and accept new ideas and thoughts. At times, the students give better ideas than the teachers and the teachers should be able to accept them without posing any ego.

6. Teachers should have lots of creativity to teach the young minds. They should be able to make activity based learning possible which will make the students understand better. This kind of approach will be definitely acknowledged the best by the students and that teacher is sure to be known for these methods of teaching.

7. High sense of humor will reduce the line of barriers between the students and teachers. This sense of humor helps in tougher situations. This kind of teacher is sure to gain more regards from not just the students but also from their parents. But with this sense of humor, the teacher should also be firm.

8. Students are different, some are visual learners, some are auditory and some learn through constant touching and practice. The teacher has to be able to present the subject on par with all these type of learners.

9. The teacher, whatever be their emotion of the day, should not show it out and maintain calmness. If the teacher goes out of control, the students get either out of control or get overly scared.

10. The teacher should be a good listener, which will help them to distress the students.

11. The teachers should respect their students and also their colleagues. Never talk ill about another teacher to students, this will make the teacher loose respect among the students.

12. The teachers are the role models, the teachers are every one's inspirations, the teachers are guides; so the teachers should be constantly updating themselves.

Just chill............agarbandhu

Getting People to Listen to You

Getting People to Listen to You

Everyone wants to have others listen to what they have to say. Other people will listen if it appears you have some interesting, valuable or important information to convey. They will also consider the source of the information and whether there is a possible or promised reward for listening. To get people to listen, you must have something to say or be able to provide some motivation for them.
Questions you may have include:
What is interesting or valuable information?
What sort of rewards would cause someone to listen?
How do you provide what they want?
This lesson will answer these questions.
Types of information
People will listen to what you say, if it is interesting, valuable, important or useful to them. Obviously, if you provide boring information, they will quickly tune out.
Interesting
Interesting information is something that you might want to know about or that may be amusing, entertaining or clever. It may be about the other person or something in which he or she is involved. Often, clever or unusual information is considered interesting.
Most people like to talk and hear about themselves or their interests.
Valuable
Information that is valuable would be something that might result in personal gain for the other person. For example, you might tell another person, "I have some valuable information concerning the stock market."
A salesman may often have supposedly valuable information on how you can save money by buying his product.
Important
Information that is important is something that it vital, critical or highly desired. It is information that if not heeded or received can result in negative consequences.
Examples of important information might be that you need to go to a meeting at 10:00 AM at work or that you left your car lights on.
Useful
Useful information concerns what you can use or apply. For example, someone might tell you a good way to prevent squirrels from getting in the bird feeder.
Boring
Useless or boring information is often things about another person or some subject about which you don't care.
Sources of information
The source of information determines whether or not a person will care to listen to it. If the person seems to be a viable source of important, useful or valuable information, you will tend to listen to it. If the person seems to have little creditability, his talking may go on deaf ears.
Friends
You often will listen to relatives, friends and acquaintances because of the social understanding that they will--in turn--listen to what you have to say. It is a fair exchange, usually not having to do with content.
Charisma
People who have good voices, charisma or are animated are often listened to as being interesting or entertaining.
Power
People with wealth and power will usually be listened to, because of their social position and ability to reward or punish, even if what they say is drivel.
You will listen to you boss talk about his personal experiences, even if they are boring, because you don't want to offend him.
Poor impression
If you can't reward another person, you sound boring or give the impression of not being worthwhile, other people often will not listen to the information you may have to give.
Getting people to listen
There are a number of things you can do to get people to listen to what you have to say.
Make a strong impression
Probably the most important thing to do in trying to get other people to listen to what you have to say is to make an impression of being a good source of interesting, useful, important or valuable information. This means that you should make sure what you say is worthwhile.
Know subject and person
You must also know whether your information is important, valuable or useful to the other person. You really have to know what the other person likes for you to pick an interesting topic.
Use qualifiers
Some people use qualifiers before they speak. They can be effective in getting and keeping attention:
"This is real interesting. The paper says a man bit a dog."
"I've got some information that should be valuable to you. They're hiring a McDonald's."
"Quite please. This is important. Everyone must remain in their seats until the bell rings."
"Here's some information that should be useful to you. You can stop fish from smelling, by clogging up their noses."
On the other hand:
"Let me tell you about all the problems I've had throughout my life. First of all, 10 years ago..." Boring!
Be rich and beautiful
Obviously, if you have money, fame, good looks or such, people will tend to listen to you more than to the average person.
Summary
People will listen if you have some interesting, valuable or important information to say or if you are consider a source possible rewards. To get people to listen, you must have something to say or be able to provide some motivation for them. You can also use qualifiers to get their attention.

Just chill............agarbandhu

Making an Impression of Being Valuable or Important

Making an Impression of Being Valuable or Important

When you are trying to provide another person with a valuable product, service or information, the person will first evaluate whether he feels you can deliver what is promised. This evaluation is done through the impression you project. Although the first impression is the most important, every time you interact, you make an impression that builds to form your reputation.
Questions you may have include:
What does the person evaluate?
How is an impression made?
Why is the first impression so important?
This lesson will answer those questions.
What is evaluated?
Whenever you interact with another person, that person makes evaluations concerning your intelligence, character, social standing and such. These evaluations or judgments are derived from subtle clues, taken from what he or she sees and hears from you.
Likewise, you do the same thing about the other person. You may observe the way the person dresses, how he carries himself, how he acts, how he sounds, and implications from what he says, and you pass judgment from those items.
This determines the impression each makes on the other.
Impression
There is the visual impression and how a person sounds.
Visual impression
When you come into contact with another person, you see him or her first and make some quick evaluations on how the person acts and dresses.
How someone acts
The way or person acts is probably the most important determining factor in the impression he makes. A person may give the impression of being self-assured, confident, important, or knowledgeable. Or the person can appear nervous, unsure and not having much to offer.
How someone looks
The way a person dresses gives in indication of the person's wealth, social standing, vanity, cleanliness and taste. The physical appearance of a person can indicate if he is intelligent, healthy, or desirable. It seems that good-looking people make a better impression that homely people.
How person sounds
Likewise, the sound of a person's voice can determine how much attention you pay to him. Part of the voice is also determined by how it is projected, such as being confident or unsure.
Importance of first impression
An impression is made quickly with intuition. To try to convince a person that the impression was incorrect takes logic. It is still difficult to overcome the "gut feeling" the person may have from the first impression.
When you first meet a person, the amount of confidence shows up immediately. If you are unsure, your voice can tell. Even if you later show confidence and a sure voice, the person may think it is just an act.
The "act" must be performed the first time you meet the person.
Summary
You must not only sell the other person that what you have to offer is valuable, but you must also create an impression that you can deliver that item. Once you create the positive impression, you are considered a valuable and even important person.

JUst chill.............agarbandhu

About Good Working Habits

About Good Working Habits

Certainly it is very important to have good working habits for maintaining your personal as well as professional life in a great way. Unless you are disciplined in your attitude towards life, your life can become a big chaos full of messy and undesirable stuff. So incorporate good working habits in your life to take your life to the ladder of success. Some of such habits are mentioned below in this article-just make smart use of them.
In your office as well as home, clean up your desk of all those papers except those relating to the immediate problem at hand. Remember that constant reminder of ‘a million tings to-do and no time to do them’ can worry you not only into tension and fatigue, but it can also worry you into high blood pressure, heart problem and stomach ulcers.
So keep only which is required at present! Mind it that a person does not die from overwork, but they die from dissipation and worry. So maintain a good balance between your present work and those that you have to do for your future.
Make sure you always do the things in the order of their importance. This way, all the work will get finished in the best manner without any kind of mistake on your part. It will also avoid you falling into the jeopardy of doing things in a hasty manner. Plus you will be able to finish the work on time.
Whenever you face any problem, solve it there and then. Gather the respective information and facts relating to your problem and work over them instead of delaying the things.Moreover for preventing fatigue and worry in your work and life, just add the element of enthusiasm and fun to it. Believe me, once you start enjoying your work, you will gain better in future.

Just chill.............agarbandhu

Thought of the Day

"Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy"

Norman Vincent Peale

just chill........agarbandhu

Solving Problems at Work

Solving Problems at Work

Everyone encounters problems periodically. Some people seem to have more problems than others, some problems are bigger than others or more troublesome than others, but life is definitely full of problems waiting to be solved. The career exploration and job-seeking process is rife with problems: what jobs match your career interests, where are the jobs you'd like to do, how do you convince an employer that you're the best candidate for a job, how to please your boss once you are hired, and so forth. But it is when you have secured employment that you may need to do your best problem solving in order to maintain or keep your job and, hopefully, advance.
The problem-solving model described below details a process for analyzing and resolving problems. Although the model appears to be quite simple, it actually involves a considerable amount of work on your part...it is simple, but not easy! If you follow the suggested steps, you can gain control of almost any difficult or confusing situation by analyzing the problem that is occurring and identifying possible solutions to it. Each stage of the problem-solving model is listed first and the anticipated outcome goal for each stage is listed parenthetically after it; then, the suggested strategies for achieving the goal follow in bulleted format.
Self-Exploration
Outcome goal: identify your problem
Strategies:
· Think about what is bothering you—can you describe the problem?
· Write out how you feel—what you feel is wrong in your life at this moment.
· Talk to someone who truly cares about you and ask what he or she thinks is getting in your way or causing you difficulty.
· Write out what you think the problem is in behavioral terms—describe the situation as objectively as possible. What behaviors are you or others doing to cause conflict or anxiety in your life?
Understanding
Outcome goal: develop your plan to solve the problem
Strategies:
· Answer the following questions: 1. "How are you contributing to the problem?" 2. "How are others contributing to the problem?" 3. "How does the environment or society contribute to the problem?" 4. "What has kept you from solving this problem to date?"
· Brainstorm (discuss openly) the situation with others who care about you to determine their perspective and their answers to the same four questions.
· Write out your answers and the answers that others have given you.
· Think about what you have written and determine what the parameters of the problem truly are based on all the answers to these four questions.
· Write out what you consider to be viable solutions...ideas for solving the problem that you have seen work for others or that you simply think might work for you.
· Brainstorm with others—what would they do in similar circumstances?
· Write out their ideas—capture all of their ideas whether you think they are good ideas or not (try not to value judge the ideas that others share with you) and add them to the list of ideas that you generated earlier. Hint: If you think you can't capture other people's ideas quickly by writing them out, consider tape recording their ideas and transferring them to print or braille later.
· Read through all of the ideas on your list.
· Eliminate any ideas on your list that you feel are silly or don't make good sense to you.
· Rank your list of viable ideas from the easiest to the hardest idea to do.
· Develop your action plan based on your rank ordered list.

Some tips:

1. Date your plan. Put today's date on it.

2. Be sure to set up your plan with the easiest thing to do first. Call that step one and identify start and finish dates (when you hope to accomplish the first step).

3. List each step with start and finish dates, understanding that you can always adjust your dates, if necessary.

4. Identify the key people with whom you will share your plan. It's more likely to happen if others know about it!

5. Identify how you will know when you have accomplished all of the steps—in other words, what is the solution you are hoping to achieve?

6. Identify how you will reward yourself at completion. We all need rewards—yours may be a walk in the park, a bubble bath, a new CD, a new outfit, a trip to the ball park, whatever your heart desires!
Action
Outcome goal: implement your plan
Strategies for keeping up with your plan:
· Post the written copy of your plan in a conspicuous place.
· Give copies of your plan to others who care about you in their preferred reading medium.
· Ask your friends and family with whom you have shared your plan to give you feedback as they see you working on it. If they see that you are not following through with the plan, ask them to call your inactivity to your attention.
· Evaluate your progress frequently—note whether or not you are accomplishing the steps in the timeframe that you defined.
· Reward yourself at the completion of each step in the process.
· If you find that you are not making progress, reconsider the steps you've listed. Did you identify the easiest thing to do first? Did you start there? Is there something else that you need to do before you can begin? What is it? Write it down and start with it!
· Are you stuck? If so, you may want to find a "good ear" and talk about what's keeping you from progressing.
· If all else fails, revisit the model—explore, understand, act! You may have identified the wrong problem or there may be another problem that demands attention before you can solve the problem you've been attempting to solve.
· Don't blame others for your problem—if something is bothering you, it's your problem and you need to solve it!
· Don't rationalize your problem—if something is bothering you, it's your problem and you need to solve it!
· Don't ignore your problem—if something is bothering you, it's your problem and you need to solve it!
· Be patient with yourself!
Good luck and happy problem solving!

Just chill........agarbandhu

Communicating on the Job

Communicating on the Job

If you want to:
· Make a good impression in an interview
· Get along well with employers and co-workers
· Develop strong, healthy relationships
· Have close friends
· Be a better friend
· Get along well with family members, teachers, and people in your community
· Advance at work
...follow the communication guidelines listed below.
Do:
1. Attend to the speaker. Look at people when they talk to you. If you can't see, orient toward the speaker's voice. Give the speaker all of your attention.
Attending means that you don't do anything else but listen to the speaker. You don't fiddle with your papers, answer your phone, look out the window, look at someone else passing by, fidget, or otherwise pay attention to something other than the speaker. You periodically nod your head or make an appropriate facial expression to match the speaker's message (a smile or frown depending on the content of what's being said.)
2. Listen to what the speaker is saying.
· Listen to what is actually said (hear the words).
· Listen to what is not said—"read between the lines" (listen for voice intonation).
· Listen for feeling. Try to guess how the speaker is feeling based on what you hear in his or her voice. Is the speaker happy, sad, fearful, or angry? Don't worry about guessing incorrectly, the speaker will clarify if you guess his or her feeling incorrectly! If you try to determine how the speaker is feeling by guessing, it lets the speaker know that you care enough about him or her to be paying attention.
· Try to determine the message the speaker is trying to impart. Ask if you are unsure, "Are you saying that...?" or "Do you mean...?" or "do I understand you to say...?"
3. Say something in reply that shows you understood how the speaker feels and that you care about the message being relayed to you.
You might say, "I appreciate you taking time to share...with Me." or "Thanks for getting back to me about..."
Don't:
1. Say anything hateful or rude. Don't respond to a speaker with comments such as, "That's a stupid thing to say!" or "What a dumb idea!"
2. Give advice. Although people often ask for advice, it's a very tricky situation because you can't solve another person's problem. He or she needs to solve it! If you give someone advice and your idea works, the person will come to rely on you for ideas every time there's a problem in his or her life. If you give someone advice and your idea doesn't work, the person will resent the fact that you didn't help him or her. Giving advice is a no-win proposition! If you are asked for advice, give the person as many ideas as you can—at least two or three ideas, never just one—and let the person choose which idea he or she might want to try.
3. Change the subject or the direction of the conversation. There are three ways that people typically change the focus of conversation and they are listed below.
Changing the focus to yourself. You often hear people saying things like, "The same thing happened to me." When you do that, you change the focus from the speaker to you. Don't!

Changing the focus to some insignificant detail. Stay focused on what the speaker is saying and don't interrupt with questions about details. If the speaker wants you to know some of the details of what he or she is concerned about, the speaker will tell you. When you are the listener, it's your job to listen and not talk!
Changing the focus entirely. If someone is uncomfortable with a message being conveyed he or she will simply shift to a completely different topic...don't! If someone is sharing something with you, you need to pay attention and consider what he or she is saying, even if you don't want to do so!
After reading this list of communication dos and don'ts, you may be thinking that you can follow these guidelines but you know that others will not necessarily notice or appreciate your efforts. That may be true at times, but the more often you follow these guidelines the more likely others will follow suit and follow them too. Try it. See if you can encourage better communication from others by being a better communicator yourself.
Applying good communication skills can help you obtain and maintain employment, and even advance in your career.

JUst chill...............agarbandhu

Employer Expectations Over Time

Employer Expectations Over Time

First Day and First Week
· From the beginning, employees are expected to be on time—no excuses! (If you are unsure of how long it will take to travel to and from a new job, consider a trial run before you start. Travel at approximately the same time and follow the same route you anticipate traveling in the future.)
· Likewise, new employees are expected to dress appropriately and be well-groomed...every day. Some companies have "Casual Fridays," which means that on Friday you can dress down, but still wear clean and appropriate, albeit casual, clothing. (Tip: A good job-related question in an interview is to ask about the company's dress code.)
· Although new employees are not be expected to recognize and remember the full names of all the people they are introduced to in the first week of work, it is important to make an effort to be pleasant and to remember as many names as possible—especially the names of the coworkers in your immediate area and your supervisor.
· New employees should expect to be supervised closely at first as they learn and develop skills specific to their new jobs. You must listen closely to instructions or read instructions thoroughly and pay close attention to corrections. New employees are expected to ask questions, if there is something they don't understand.
· During the first week, a worker establishes his or her work reputation. By working hard and being productive, a worker makes a good first impression...remember, first impressions are difficult to change!
First Month
· Employees are expected to be at work and to be there on time because others are depending on them. They are expected to take only pre-determined or arranged lunch and break times.
· They are expected to know written and unwritten company policies.
· By the end of the first month, new employees are expected to know the majority of their coworkers and the supervisory staff by name.If you are relying on voice cues rather than visual cues, you are only expected to recognize those workers in your immediate area by the end of the first month. In fact, depending on the number of workers in your immediate area you may have greater latitude on this point.
· By the end of the first month, new employees are expected to know about informal structures (cliques) and how to fit in at work. It is important as a new employee for you to resist the temptation to gossip and repeat or take rumors seriously.
· Within the first month, new employees are expected to acclimate to their environment—to know where to go for what and to whom to go for what.
· Your boss will expect you to show an increase in your production and a decrease in the amount of supervision you need. It is anticipated that you will know your job responsibilities and a little bit about the job responsibilities of others.
· Finally, it is important to determine the company's policy regarding performance evaluations and probationary periods within the first month in order to begin preparation for yours.
Six Months to One Year
· By this point in an employee's work life, primary job responsibilities should be second nature.
· You will be expected to complete your job tasks and assist newly hired workers.
· You will be expected to be self-directed and able to find productive things to do even in slack times.
· You will be expected to be willing to expand your work skills through off-the-job training (in company sponsored training classes or courses offered in the community).
· You will be expected to demonstrate your commitment to the company through active involvement in company-sponsored events or community projects.
· Finally, you should continue to be diligent (no long weekends or feigned illnesses to use sick time). Don't develop a false sense of security—remember, if the company doesn't perform well, employees (even good ones!) may find themselves downsized!
Relationships and expectations change over time. It is important to understand how an employer's expectations change over time. What an employer expects from his or her workers when they first meet or on the first day of work is much more lenient than expectations at six months or a year.
Likewise, coworkers have very different expectations of a peer after a "break-in" period. Most coworkers expect to help newly hired coworkers "learn the ropes" and become acquainted with the workplace. Although they don't usually mind if someone new to the office asks for help or clarification, they will soon tire of being asked the same question over and over or being relied upon to do another worker's problem solving repeatedly.
Within a reasonable period of time, usually 3 to 6 months, employees are expected by coworkers and supervisors to be able to function fairly independently.

Just chill.................agarbandhu

Building Positive Work Habits: The Perfect Worker

Building Positive Work Habits: The Perfect Worker

What the Employer Really Wants
There are some work habits that all employers hope their new hires will have. Consider how you match up to the attributes of the "perfect worker."
· Punctuality - being on time every day
· Attendance - being at work unless you are truly ill or there is an emergency
· Productivity - working to assure both quality and quantity measures are met
· Initiative - starting work without being told to do so
· Cooperation - getting along with people...boss, coworkers, customers
· Attention to Details - following rules or directions
· Accuracy - not making mistakes
· Adaptability - can do more than one job task
· Diligence - improving job performance routinely
· Appearance - always presents in appropriate clothing and accessories
· Open-mindedness - accepts constructive criticism
· Honesty and Trustworthiness - doesn't cheat, steal, or lie
Consider how many of the work habits listed above you demonstrate in your current work, school, or home situation. Are there habits you need to improve—what are they? How can you improve in these areas?

Just chill.................agarbandhu

Motivating Others to Act

Motivating Others to Act

Motivating others is the process of giving another person an incentive to move him or her to some desired action. It is an important factor in business and sales. Whether or not the action is taken depends on weighing the desire for the reward or the fear of punishment versus the work required.
Questions you may have include:
What type of promises or threats can you give?
What is the action or work required?
What determines the person's motivation to seek the reward?

This lesson will try to answer these questions.
Promise or threaten
To motivate another person, you must promise or offer something that the person wants, threaten to take away something the person does not want to lose, or threaten harm to the person.
Desire
People desire things that gives them pleasure, satisfaction or enjoyment. They may also desire products or services that will help solve problems or concerns.
Salesmen will often paint a picture of the benefits of using a product or service, such that the customer can visualize the rewards and pleasure achieved. Some examples are:
It will save you work and time
It will make a great impression on your friends and neighbors
It tastes great and is less filling
Employers will often use incentives to motivate their workers to greater productivity. Money has always been a good motivator, because people can then buy whatever they want. Managers may also promise a promotion or special recognition to motivate their people.
Punishment
The threat of punishment can also be used to motivate others.
A robber can threaten harm in order to motivate a victim to hand over his money
Parents often threaten to punish their children to get them to behave
The government threatens punishment to those breaking the law in order to promote social order
Combination
A combination of the promise of a reward and the threat of punishment is often an effective way to motivate. It is called the "carrot and stick method" of motivation.
An employee will do a good job at work under the promise of a raise and the threat of losing his job.
Requirement
Although the desire for the product or service can be built up, the required action is a determining factor in motivation. What do you require the person to do to try to get the reward?
Rewards
The car salesman has created a desire for a stylish, safe, economical automobile in the eyes of the potential customer. But there is the requirement that the customer pay a substantial amount of money to fulfill his dream.
Other examples of requirements for getting rewards include:
The employee must work overtime to get a promotion
The child must get good grades to get the desired bicycle
The audience must pay money to see their favorite singer entertain
Punishment
Examples of requirements to avoid punishment include:
The worker must come to work on time or be docked pay
The person must give his money or the robber will harm him
You must take out the garbage or suffer a smelly house
Decision and motivation
By weighing the value or importance of what you promise or threaten versus the work or action required, the person you are trying to motivate makes decision whether or not to try to get what he or she wants.
Motivate your children
You want to motivate your children to get better grades in school. You offer to take them to Magic Mountain, if they promise to study and extra 30 minutes each night. The cost doesn't seem so bad compared to the value of going to the amusement park, so they are motivated to agree.
Motivate a dog
You want your dog to behave in a certain way. You offer a treat for it to do a task, but you also scold the animal if it does not obey. The combination of a reward and punishment motivates the dog to do what you want it to do.
Summary
Although you must enhance the benefits and desire for a reward, you must also make the requirements palatable and easy, so that the person or animal will remain motivated to do as you want.

Just chill..............agarbandhu

Motivation: The driving force

Motivation: The driving force

Motivation is the driving force causing a person or animal to try to get what he or she wants. It is the inner urge or incentive to move to action. The more valuable or important the reward is, the greater the motivation. But whether or not the action is taken depends on weighing the desire for the reward or the fear of punishment versus the work or action required.
Questions you may have include:
What type of desires do people have?
What is the action or work required?
What determines your motivation to try?

This lesson will try to answer these questions.
Desire
You may have a desire for something that seems like a reward. You want it because it will bring enjoyment, pleasure or some other sort of satisfaction. Examples of things a person may desire are food, money, some fancy gadget, a loving relationship, or some special service.
There are also situations where you may be threatened with some sort of punishment that would cause pain or the loss of something of value or importance to you. For example, a worker may have his job threatened, or a person may be threatened with some sort of violence. The desire here is to protect or maintain what you already have, so you won't lose it.
Requirement
There is a difference between simple desire and the motivation to take action to get what you want. There usually is some work or exchange of goods required to gain the reward or avoid the punishment.
Rewards
Examples of requirement for getting rewards include:
You must work 40 hours for your paycheck
You must pay dearly for the new car you want
You must go to the store to get the food you want
Punishment
Examples of requirements to avoid punishment include:
You must work overtime or lose your job
You must give the robber your money or lose your life
You must take out the garbage or suffer a smelly house
Million dollar prize
Suppose there was a contest with a million dollar prize. You would really like to get that prize. But your motivation would depend on what you would have to do to try for that money. Simply buying a lottery ticket would be worth a try, even though the chances of success are low. But suppose you had to enter in a humiliating contest. You might think twice or forget about it. Your motivation to act is not as high.
Decision and motivation
By weighing the value or importance of what you want versus the negative value of what is necessary, you determine your motivation and make a decision whether or not to try to get what you want.
Buy new car
You really want that new car, but the cost is higher than you can afford. It might result in going deeply in debt. But on the other hand, everyone would be envious of you to have such a car. Seeing yourself driving that car is more valuable to you than the excessive cost. You are thus motivated enough to make the purchase.
Give up your money
The robber points a gun at you and demands your money. You need the money to pay the rent. But your life is obviously more valuable than what you can do with the money. The motivation is high enough to give your money to the robber.

Work overtime
The boss says you must work overtime this weekend. You had planned on going fishing and don't really want to work the long hours. If you refuse to work, you may be punished by losing your job. On the other hand, if you do work, you will get time-and-a-half in pay. The threatened punishment and the promised extra pay, outweigh your desire to relax and provide sufficient motivation to go to work on Saturday.
Get a better job
The promise of a better job can often motivate a person. This is especially true if the fort required is not that difficult.
An example can be seen from baseball great Henry (Hank) Aaron.
Aaron grew up in the deep south of the United States, and his father had given him advice never to move more than you have to. Thus, Aaron wasn't known as a hard worker, when he was playing minor league baseball. But one day, he heard that a major league scout was visiting the team to select some players to advance to the big league.
Hank really wanted to play in the major leagues, and this was his big opportunity. He disregarded his father's poor advice and played that day like a man possessed, moving quickly and trying to make sensational plays.
His motivation resulted in getting selected to play for the then Boston Braves, and he later became and all-time great ball player.
Summary
Weighing the value or and your desire for a reward and/or fear of punishment against the work required, determines your motivation to do the task.

Just chill...............agarbandhu

Make Yourself Valuable in Your Job

Make Yourself Valuable in Your Job

A person is hired to work for a company because they need his or her services to help them make a profit from their goods or services. To some degree, they pay the employee according to the value provided to the company. Supply and demand also come into play in wages or salary. If you make yourself more valuable, you may reap rewards.
Questions you may have include:
What are examples of valuable employees?
How is value determined in a job?
How can you make yourself more valuable?

This lesson will answer those questions.
Valuable employees
All employees should contribute to a company's profits. Some are considered more valuable that others, usually in relation to the amount of profits they produce.
Top executives
Top executives of companies, such as the Chief Executive Officer (CEO) and President, are considered very valuable to their companies, because they make solid business decisions that bring in profits and dividends to the stockholders.
In return for their value, some top executives receive million dollar bonuses on top of their large salaries.
In many situations such a bonus may be appropriate, but there have been cases where stockholders have complained about them--especially when the company is losing money--only to have the Board of Directors overrule them. This is like the workers overruling the owners.
Top salesman valuable
A salesman who brings in a multi-million dollar contract is certainly considered valuable to the company. Companies often pay high commissions to such an employee, in order to keep the person in the company.
Not appreciated
Ross Perot was such a good salesman for IBM that his commissions put his wages above those of the top executives. Although he was extremely valuable to the company--and also very difficult to replace--the executives put a cap on his earnings. Perot then left the company and started Electronic Data Services (EDS) and became a multi-millionaire. He later unsuccessfully ran for President of the U.S.
Valuable workers
Workers with specialized skills are usually considered valuable to the company and paid accordingly. The average worker is paid according to the skill-level of the job and the supply of workers. When unemployment is high, wages tend to drop.
Determining value
Often it is very difficult for a company to determine the value of an employee. Usually, that is determined by supply and demand. They may need a certain type of worker and have to pay dearly, even though the added value to the end product is not that great.
In many cases, the value of a person is perceived and not actual. A person who is friends with the boss is perceived as more valuable to a company than a person who actually does valuable work, but who is not liked.
Low-paid worker
Consider a person who works in the department store warehouse, putting price labels on clothes items. The person gets paid Rs. 1500/- P.C.M., but the company pays Rs. 3500/-PCM including insurance, benefits, etc. If the worker averages 240 labels an hour, that adds Rs. 0.05 to the cost of each item.
This job is important, because they need the price tags on the items, but it does not really increase the value of the product much. Also, since it is unskilled labor, the supply of workers is great. Thus the hourly pay is low.
Programmer
A computer programmer can count the hours spent on developing a software application and see the savings to the company or how much they make on the product. It is sort of like a return-on-investment for the company.
Your value
An interesting exercise is to try to figure out your value to your company. In some cases, you can estimate how many products that you contribute to, what the company charges for them, and how much they pay you for the contribution.
Make yourself more valuable
No matter what your position in a company, you want to make yourself more valuable to them. This will not only help you get raises and promotions, but it will also ensure job-security.
Gain skills
Ways to be more valuable in your job include finding ways to do your job better or quicker, thus saving the company money. Increasing your skills, so you can do more needed work for the company. Performing extra duties, beyond the scope of your job description.
Must be careful
You must be careful, though, in seeking ways to be more valuable. Sometimes a worker will do something he thinks is valuable, only to be shot-down by his superiors. Sometimes they don't want people to try to be more valuable, because it is a threat of one sort of another.
Summary
Executives, salesmen, and workers contribute to the profits of a company. The value of some can be directly related to the profits, while other jobs are viewed as necessary expenses or costs. You can improve the way you work, come up with cost-savings ideas, improve your skills and do extra tasks to improve your value.

Just chill...............agarbandhu

10 practical learner-centric teaching strategies

10 practical learner-centric teaching strategies

Here are some simple and practical student-friendly teaching techniques which can be incorporated into the classroom. These techniques, if used purposefully, puts the learner at the centre of the learning experience by increasing their participation and engagement in a classroom; providing an opportunity of molding their learning experience; and by building a connection between the environment and concepts taught.
PRACTICAL EXAMPLES: Connecting theory with environment
The introduction of practical examples into the subject matter serves as an enhancement and is complementary to the concepts taught in the classroom. Note that it is important to develop the conceptual and practical base simultaneously since neither is useful without the other.
SHOW AND TELL: Reversing Teacher - Student Roles
The “Show and Tell” technique can be used in various forms depending on the subject content, the age group of the students and the degree of their sophistication. In its most elementary form, show-and-tell can a form of story-telling (development of communication skills); and in its more advanced form is another type of the “Practical Examples” technique. Putting the students into the role of a teacher makes the students look deeper into the assigned problem.
CASE STUDIES: Bringing “Real-Life” Scenarios into the Classroom
Cases are accounts of “real-life” activity, they help the students to better relate concepts to the “real-world”. In this method, Learners can be required to work either individually or in groups. The case method promotes classroom discussions, problem solving and feedback from learners.
GUIDED TEAM PROJECTS: Introducing practical experience into Classrooms
Team projects can be short projects/activities which are completed in one classroom session or longer projects/ activities which span multiple sessions. Team projects give learners an opportunity to work in a team environment, applying concepts learned in the classroom. Students work together in teams generating ideas/solving problems/illustrating concepts while giving the entire class opportunity to participate and reflect during the presentation.
OPEN-ENDED LABS: Making learners think deeper
Open-ended laboratory classes are classes where the students are encouraged to design their own experience / concepts or experiments, rather than required to follow a rigid set of guidelines specified by the teacher. This learning strategy is all about exploring alternative methods of doing things which results in a deeper understanding on what works and what does not while fostering creativity and lateral thinking.
THE FLOWCHART TECHNIQUE: Organizing flow of thought
The technique of flowcharting, as applied to a classroom scenario, is a tool for precisely and concisely representing the flow of information among various stages in the development of a concept; in the formulation or analysis of a problem; providing linkages between various steps; and presenting information / thought.
OPEN-ENDED QUIZZES: Moving students away from memorization
Open ended quizzes (e.g. problems that do not specify all information to arrive at the answer; problems that require students to use their judgement, etc) are an enhancement of the straightforward “Given this, calculate that” or “Plug and chug” type of quizzes that merely encourage students to memorize. The open-ended quiz is intended to stimulate students’ creativity and help students think deeply about the material covered in the classroom.
BRAINSTORMING: Encouraging creativity
The brainstorming technique is widely used in industry and academia to encourage participants to generate ideas in an unhindered manner. In an academic context, brainstorming encourages students to participate actively in idea-generation exercises and experience benefits of a multi-dimensional approach to analyzing problems or solutions. The brainstorming technique is applicable to all levels of the curriculum and to all teaching scenarios - labs, lectures or discussion.
4MAT: Catering to multiple learning preferences
The 4MAT approach caters to the multiple learning profiles of students (recall, understanding, application and synthesis) and each lesson is planned to focus on each preference. Learners are encouraged to participate in all approaches thereby learning through the preferred approach while strengthening their weaker areas.
QUESTION-AND-ANSWER METHOD: Encouraging student participation
This is the most commonly used technique of encouraging learner participation in a classroom. The goal of the question-and-answer method is to draw students into active participation in the teaching and learning process. When used properly (merely posing questions is not enough to motivate learners to move to higher levels of learning) this technique encourages learners to move to higher levels of learning by clarification, expansion, generalization, and inference.
Summation
The teaching strategies mentioned above enrich the classroom environment. The success with which these strategies are used in a classroom is dependent on the skill of the teacher in integrating the strategies into the stated learning outcomes. It requires that the teachers devote time and thought during the planning of the lesson and determine the manner in which these teaching strategies will be used.
It should be noted that that these strategies do not imply a “hands off” policy by the teacher, but is plays a big role by acting as a facilitator / consultant in guiding the learning process. The effectiveness of each of these techniques is only limited by the creativity / enthusiasm of the instructor and the constraints imposed by the system.

Just chill.............agarbandhu

About School

About School

I came across this poignantly inspirational poem by R. Nukerji in “Global teacher, Global Leaner” by Graham Pike and David Selby. It would be a shame not to share it.

He always wanted to say things. But no one understood.
He always wanted to explain things. But no one cared.
So he drew.
Sometimes he would just draw and it wasn’t anything. He wanted to carve it in stone or write it in the sky.
He would lie out on the grass and look up in the sky and it would be only him and the sky and the things inside that needed saying.
And it was after that, that he drew the picture. It was a beautiful picture. He kept it under the pillow and would let no one see it.
And he would look at it every night and think about it. And when it was dark, and his eyes were closed, he could still see it.
And it was all of him. And he loved it.
When he started school, he brought it with him. Not to show anyone, but just to have it with him like a friend.
It was funny about school.
He sat in a square, brown desk like all other square, brown desks and he thought it should be red.
And his room was a square, brown room. Like all the other rooms.
And it was tight and close. And stiff.
He hated to hold the pencil and the chalk, with his arm stiff and his feet flat on the floor, with the teacher watching and watching.
And then he had to write numbers. And they weren’t anything.
They were worse than the letters that could be something if you put them together.
And the numbers were square and tight and he hated the whole thing.
The teacher came and spoke to him. She told him to wear a tie like all other boys. He said he didn’t like them and she said it didn’t matter.
After that they drew. And he drew all yellow and it was the way he felt about morning. And it was beautiful.
The teacher came to him and smiled at him, “what is this?” she said. “Why don’t you draw something like Ken’s drawing? Isn’t it beautiful?”
It was all questions.
After that his mother bought a tie and he always drew airplanes and rocket ships like everyone else.
And he threw his old picture away.
He was square inside and brown, and his hands were stiff and he was like anyone else. And the thing inside him that needed saying didn’t need saying anymore.
It had stopped pushing. It was crushed. Stiff.
Like everything else.

Just chill..............agarbandhu

How to Live Life

How to Live Life

ONE.

Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

TWO.

Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.

THREE.

Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.

FOUR..

When you say, 'I love you,' mean it.

FIVE..

When you say, 'I'm sorry,' look the person in the eye.

SIX.

Be engaged at least six months before you get married.

SEVEN.

Believe in love at first sight.

EIGHT.

Never laugh at anyone's dreams. People who don't have dreams don't have much.

NINE..

Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.

TEN...

In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.

ELEVEN.

Don't judge people by their relatives.

TWELVE.

Talk slowly but think quickly.

THIRTEEN! .

When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, 'Why do you want to know ?'

FOURTEEN.

Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

FIFTEEN.

Say 'bless you' when you hear someone sneeze.

SIXTEEN.

When you lose, don't lose the lesson.

SEVENTEEN.

Remember the three R's:

Respect for self;

Respect for others; and

Responsibility for all your actions.

EIGHTEEN.

Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.

NINETEEN.

When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

TWENTY.

Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice

TWENTY- ONE.

Spend some time alone.

Just chill...............agarbandhu

7 Powerful Relaxation Techniques

7 Powerful Relaxation Techniques

The stress of modern life can make real relaxation an elusive dream. Yet there is no reason life has to be filled with anxiety and stress. If you take some time to learn the art of relaxation, you can easily rediscover the enjoyment in life. The secret of relaxation is a controlled state of mind. For example, you could spend a whole hour in a health spa; but, if you spend the whole time worrying about what will happen tomorrow, how can you relax?
Relaxation Techniques
1. Now is the only Time that is important - How often do we find ourselves worrying about the future? Anxiety about the future takes up a significant portion of our thoughts. But, to be honest, worrying about the future doesn’t help in any way. If you always live in the past or future you will never be able to relax. To be in a state of relaxation means living only in the present moment.
2. Your environment Matters - Where you spend time has a subtle influence over your state of mind. Consciously we may not be always aware of this; however, you will notice that in some rooms it’s easier to relax and be at peace.

Look at your room; if you see piles of clutter these will act as constant reminders of things you need to do.
These constant subconscious reminders are a heavy weight on the mind. If you tidy up the room and create a pleasant environment, it will make a big difference to your state of mind and enable you to relax. Don’t be reluctant to spend a bit of money on things like air-fresheners and flowers. Spend time tidying up your living/work environment. Its essential to relaxation and will also make you more productive.
3. Meditation - During meditation we actively make time to silence the mind and bring to the fore a real feeling of relaxation. Meditation helps because we learn to control the relentless flow of thoughts. During meditation, the aim is to keep the mind still; this brings clarity and inner peace.

This is the best type of relaxation because we become free from the relentless worries and anxieties of our own making. Find time to meditate for 10 or 15 minutes each day; through meditation we can easily detach ourselves from the pressures of the world.
4. Productivity not Procrastination - Relaxation doesn’t have to mean spending all day on a beach doing nothing. We need to learn how to relax, even in the midst of our daily activities. Prioritize the things that you need to do. If you do things systematically, one at a time, you will feel less stressed and get things done quickly. It’s when we try to do several things at once that we put ourselves under great pressure — this struggle which makes relaxation impossible. Don’t make life hard for yourself. Do one thing at a time and enjoy doing it. When you’ve completed your necessary work, then you have the reward of pleasing yourself without a guilty conscience.
5. Do Not Depend on the Opinions of Others - How much do you depend on the opinion of others? When we worry what people may think or say, we place a burden on our mind. Subconsciously we work towards trying to please others. However, when we have this state of mind it becomes impossible to relax. No matter what we do or say, there will always be someone who manages to criticize or find fault. Therefore, we should develop an attitude of detachment to both praise and criticism.
This doesn’t mean we’re indifferent to the views of others; it just means we won’t allow ourselves to lose our inner peace because of their opinions. This piece of advice isn’t easy to implement but over time we can gradually give less importance to the views of others. Relaxation can only occur if we aren’t constantly thinking about what others are saying and doing.
6. Time to Yourself - Don’t allow yourself to always be at the beck and call of work and other people — make time for yourself. If you are harassed by constant email and phone enquiries, take evasive action. Only take calls and answer emails at certain times of the day. It’s unlikely that your availability, 24 hours a day, is indispensable. When we allow pressures to build up, relaxation becomes very difficult. But, if you really try hard, you should be able to reduce the demands placed on your time and energy.
7. A change is as good as a rest - Life should not be a constantly repeating soap opera. If you find yourself stuck in the same routine, do something completely different. For example, if you spend all your evenings watching rubbish on TV or surfing the internet, you will not get a feeling of real relaxation. Go for a walk or do some sporting activity. The change of scene and activity will help you relax and get away from the monotony and frustration of daily activity.
Relaxation is as simple as gentle Breathing
If you feel stressed take a few moments out. Just watch and be aware of your breathing. Breathe naturally and gently; this will have a very powerful, calming influence on your mind. When you breathe in, feel that you are breathing in inner peace. When you breathe out, feel you are exhaling all your anxieties and worries. Relaxation can be this simple - it doesn’t have to be complicated at all.

Just chill................agarbandhu